I missed a meeting at work the other day and felt so foolish. Missing the meeting was not something I had chosen, and yet it was also not something that just “happened to me.” As a practitioner I had to give up victim hood long ago, or at least try to. But still I want to blame someone, yet I have only myself to blame and blame I do. When I can’t beat up the next guy, I take it out on myself. But blame is not helpful no matter who the finger is pointed at, self included.
With clients I am very helpful. I would say something like “there are no mistakes, and this is a perfect class room for you.” But with myself I am much less gentle and loving. Instead I hear myself say, “How could you be so stupid?” I am not proud of it, but this is actually the word that popped into my head. I’ll have you know that the “S” word is not one I allow in my house so it can really ruffle me when it shows up in my head.
So when we know better than to blame others and it does no good to blame ourselves, what do we do? The one cure all that seems to help is to “be still and know God.” How is this done? Well, literally be still; go to a place where there is quiet and sit in contemplation. This does not have to be a church or library; it could very well be a car or a bathroom. Next, just connect with your breath and let it be. Allow yourself to contemplate without judgment going over the facts, just the facts. Just sit still before the perfect teacher of Cause and Effect and take a moment to pause and evaluate how this experience unfolded and then, and here is where things can be oh so simple if we let them… choose again. Yep, that’s it. Just choose again. We cannot erase the past or turn back the clock, we cannot control the future, but in this moment we can choose peace, love and forgiveness. When we choose this, we are actively choosing a power greater then ourselves. This Power who knows all solution. This Power that takes an active interest in our highest good.
A Course In Miracles says “Trials are but lessons which you failed to learn presented once again, so where you made a faulty choice before you now can make a better one, and thus escape all pain which what you chose before has brought to you. In every difficulty, all distress, and each perplexity you face, Christ calls to you, and gently says, “My brother, choose again.”
Many years ago my husband gave me a gift of a set of paper cocktail napkins. On the napkins was a vintage picture of an attractive lady smiling radiantly she leaned against a tree, cigarette in hand. At the bottom of the picture the caption read, “She had not yet decided whether to use her power for good… or evil.” It was such a perfect gift for me. If you know me at all, you know I like to walk the line. To this day I still have one of those napkins taped to the cover of my A Course In Miracles book. It makes me laugh, and for me laughter is pretty much prayer put to music. The other thing I love about the napkin is that it reminds me that I always have a choice. I get to decide how to use my power. Today I choose peace, love and forgiveness… self included.
“Stay the course, light a star,
Change the world where’er you are.”
About Maureen: Maureen is a dynamic speaker, intuitive and innovative educator who ignites transformation through the use of singing, chanting, movement, storytelling, spiritual practice and lots and lots of laughter.
She currently facilitates A Course In Miracles groups at Bodhi Spiritual Center in Chicago Sundays at 1pm. Western Springs Monday and Wednesday at 9pm 822 on Hillgrove Ave. in Western Springs, she hosts an Internet Radio show on
www.OneMindFdn.org/acimgather.htm (Friday) at 2pm ET / TUNE*IN, and is a co-facilitator for Positive Focus’ Tuesday Teachings – A Course in Miracles.
You can find out about Maureen’s workshops and classes as well as book a private coaching session at MaureenMuldoon.com