Growing up my mother often told me I couldn’t understand how much she loved me; I wouldn’t understand it until I had my own children. She said this in moments where I’d done something stupid or embarrassing. She also said this in moments when she was filled with pride or happiness.
My mom was right. No one can understand a mother’s love until she becomes a mother. The unconditional love, the selflessness and the pure accepting of another starts when a mother holds her child in her arms for the first time. Then it never ends. It only grows and grows.
I have been a mother for two and a half years (as of Sat, May 11th) :). In those years I have grown substantially. I have learned to trust my instinct like never before. I know what’s best for Michaela and Luca because I know them better than anyone else in the world. I started to get to know them as they grew in my womb and I learn more about them each day.
I have learned to love my beautiful body with all its imperfections because I am just the way I’m supposed to be. As I look at Michaela and marvel and her beautiful, perfect body, I know that one day my parents looked at me in the same way. I never want her to dislike any part of herself although I’ll reassure her when she does. I also love my body for the amazing ability it had to carry life inside me, nourish life to grow inside me twice and birth my children naturally, feeling all the joy and empowerment that labor gives women.
I have learned to forgive myself because I try my best every day and that is good enough. I have great days and hard days but overall, I am proud of the mother I am. I admire who my children are becoming and I know a lot of it is because of me.
I hope that all mothers took some time on Mother’s Day to reflect on how amazing they are. There would no life without mothers. We are all beautiful, all special and all important.
Angela M. Barbieri
I am a happy mother of two. I’ve written for as long as I can remember. Since becoming a mother, I’ve started sharing my experiences to connect with others and share what I learn. My hope is to support parents through being honest and open about the challenges and magical moments of parenting. I am a changed woman, for the better, thanks to being a mother. What a blessing!