I recently had lunch with women friends. All being mothers we talked about what our children ate, how they drink their milk/formula (bottle/sippy cup, etc.) and observed what we let them use as teethers (Luca’s preference is a regular sized spoon while crawling/standing which obviously made several nervous).
As I sat, listened and shared, I concluded our main motherhood hurdle is confidence. There are so many conflicting approaches to parenting that we often forget to tune into ourselves. We let old and new ways overwhelm us without pausing and asking ourselves “What do I think?”. This is more true of first time moms, so to you first time moms, I say: stop worrying what, how, when other people’s kids are doing things. Instead focus on what YOUR gut tells you to do for YOUR baby. We easily forget that we know our children better than anyone!!
During lunch a few times I heard, “My doctor won’t let me give fish until the kids are a year.” or “My doctor says…”. Doctors are people too. They have their own beliefs as to what approaches are best. Do you want to trust someone who doesn’t know your child(ren) as well as you? Do you want someone you don’t know that well to dictate your decisions? Or do you want to factor in what doctors/others say but believe in yourself more?
I opt for collecting information, reading, finding like-minded moms and creating a support group for myself so that I’ve covered all my bases. Then I make the best decisions I can for my children. I know more about them than anyone else and it feels good to know inside myself that I’m doing what MY gut tells me is best for MY children.
I’m proud that I’ve jumped over the confidence hurdle. Im happier and calmer because it. I hope you have, but if you haven’t know that you are not alone. Seek out information and then tune into that voice inside you that tells YOU know what’s best for YOUR child(ren).
Wishing you a confidence-filled week!