Focused Family

Teaching Your Children Law Of Attraction.

Welcome to Focused Family, our monthly newsletter on teaching the law of attraction to children.  We’re very happy and excited that you’re here. Each month we’ll share a parenting tip, a game to play, and a powerful child manifestation story to keep you inspired and focused on created the best possible family.

I’m so happy and grateful to share this work with you.  Until next month… dream big and keep focusing on what you’re wanting.

 Life is good, Steffani

Quote:

“Your children will see what you’re all about by what you live rather than what you say.” ~ Dr. Wayne Dyer

Parent tip of the month:  Energy, Attention and Focus! 

What are you including in your vibrational space? Do you know? Well what are you putting your energy, attention and focus on? Whatever the answer….that’s in your vibrational space. Are you day dreaming about a vacation? That’s in your vibrational bubble. Are you talking about a future experience or past experience? That’s in your vibrational bubble. Are you worrying about something? That’s in your vibrational bubble. Are you focusing on the bad weather, a sick coworker, a bad customer service experience? That’s also in there. Think for a minute about how often you worry about your kids. Do you want to include that in your vibrational bubble? We all know that we can’t attract or vibrate for someone else. So what does worrying do?  Does it affect them? No. But it does effect our vibration. And it effects what we’re attracting for everyone around us. It effects what we’re manifesting. So give some thought to what you’re putting your energy, attention and focus on. What are you talking about, thinking about, looking at, dreading? Change the negatives to positives and you’ll attract more of what you’re wanting. When conversations come up that are not welcome in your vibrational bubble. Change them. When you start thinking about things that are not welcome in your vibrational bubble CANCEL them. And move on to bigger and better thoughts and conversations. Only you control your vibration. Only you control what you’re attracting. You are a deliberate attractor. You can consciously create the life of your dreams by putting your energy, attention and focus on that dream life. Lead by example and show your kids that you’re putting your energy, attention and focus on all things good. They’ll be encouraged to do the same.

Monthly game:  Dinner Affirmations

When I am asked to create powerful affirmations I do. When I’m not asked I don’t. Kids are the same. If we ask them to participate in something, and keep it consistent, they’ll oblige. Sometimes right away, sometimes eventually. So what are you asking of your kids? What kind of rituals and traditions have you created? Are they positive and fun? Do they align with LOA? Here’s an idea you can add. If you spend a few nights a week having dinner with your kids, no matter what their age, ask them to create a new powerful affirmation each night. Tell them one of your latest and greatest powerful affirmations.  Don’t be afraid to share it. Then ask them to create one. It could be something pertaining to their school work. “I’m a straight A student.” “I work hard on every one of my history exams.”  Or something more personal that might be pertinent in their life. “I make friends easily.” “I’m very popular in a positive and helpful way.” You might start by asking your kids: “What are you working on in your life right now?” Or “what do you want to improve in your life right now?”  Then help them create an affirmation around that. It can become your new dinner routine. When you’re setting the table you can ask, “Are you thinking about your latest and greatest affirmation?” “Have you been saying your last affirmation often?” “Do you have something in your life you want to work on tonight?”  This can start as young as kids can talk. And it can last until they’re adults and beyond. J The basic tip for a good affirmation is, keep it positive, keep it present and keep it in the first person. So, I have or I am is better then I want or I will have.  I also like to ask one question of my affirmations. And that is, is it true?  Do I really feel like that can happen? If my affirmation feels like a load of bull, then it’s not going to get me anywhere. If there’s at least a hint of truth to it then it will work for me.  For instance, I have never considered myself a good cook. So if I had a new affirmation that said “I’m an excellent cook” That wouldn’t work for me. My subconscious would say “BS!” Instead I might set a new affirmation of “I enjoy cooking healthy meals”. Or “I cook healthy meals that taste great”. Both of those are true and believable to me. So that’s an easy leap. And it will get me where I’m wanting to be, which is to be a good cook. Help your kids to develop a new affirmation every night you share dinner together. They’ll enjoy it and get better and better at creating powerful affirmations in their lives. And with all those powerful affirmations floating around, ANYTHING’S POSSIBLE.

The latest and greatest Kids Manifestation Story:

My son Jack is 18 months old.  And he is a POWERFUL manifestor. We started giving him some Pedialyte (baby Gatorade) when he was young to keep him hydrated. And he LOVED it. He has since always had a bit of Pedialyte in his water. He doesn’t drink straight water very well because of it. Our doctor said it was no problem but if we wanted to stop the Pedialyte we should just stop it, cold turkey. So we decided to make a change. We were traveling to Mexico for a week long vacation. And we started just giving him Milk and purified water. He didn’t seem to protest very much.  But you could tell that when he drank his water he would look twice at it, wondering where the flavor was. We were only there a few days when Jack got a little infermo (sick). We took him to the doctor and although he was given a clean bill of health we walked out with a prescription for….yep, you guessed it, Pedialyte. Just a few days without his beloved Pedialyte and he suddenly has a doctor prescribed order for it. What a powerful little man! I can’t wait to see what he asks for next.

Do you have any kid’s manifestation stories you’d like to share.  E-mail me at steffani@postive-focus.com  I’d love to hear about your powerful kids.

I’m so happy and grateful to share this work with you.  Until next month… dream big and keep focusing on what you’re wanting.

Life is good,

Steffani

Steffani Fort LeFevour is an actress, a fitness specialist and an expert in the law of attraction and living your best life. She has been teaching the law of attraction to kids and adults for over 8 years and applying it in her own life for over 20 years. Her passion is to help others to focus on their ultimate lives and consciously create the life of their dreams.

 She is a board member at Positive Focus, a 501c3 Non-Profit dedicated to empowering people to live life fulfilled through the provision of Service-Charity, Mind-Body-Spirit, and Fun-Social events, workshops, resources and services.

February was a wonderful month full of hugs, feeding the homeless and our new event “Operation Sack Lunch & After Work Social”. Now twice a month you can help provide food to the homeless – once a month as we serve food at the Good News Kitchen and once a month via Operation Sack Lunch and Social.

Coming soon I will be organizing a cooking/serving event opportunity where we will go to the Lincoln Park Community Shelter to provide, prepare and serve dinner for 35 residents of this shelter.I’m sure you have a favorite comfort food, ethnic or vegetarian meal you would love to share with the LPCS guests one weekend. Stay posted to the calendar for details. I recently became a Night Supervisor at LPCS and had my first overnight experience. It’s truly a home environment complete with meals.

Ways to serve LPCS besides food: Acetaminophen and Excedrin, men and women’s gently used clothing and shoes, personal care items, bus passes, breakfast items, coffee, tea, magazines, movies, twin bedding and blankets for their bunk beds. I would be happy to drop off any items you would like to donate, so just let me know.

Gives Back Ideas: We are always looking for Co-Organizers so please contact me if you have a gives back idea you want to help bring to the PF community.

Global Free Hugs IV is off to wonderful roll, with people from all over the world participating. We need your help to contact more huggers!  Do you have friends or family in another part of the world?  Do you have Facebook friends from other parts of the country or world who you could invite to participate?  Send them the Link to Positive Focus.  Send them one of the many YouTube videos of Free Hugs Events.  It’s a wonderful free warm gift to share with anyone who passes you.  I cannot explain the warmth and love I feel when a hug is shared with a total stranger. Instant friendships are made and the world is somehow different.

Hugs to you and I look forward to seeing you at a PF event soon!

Cathy
cathy@positive-focus.com

Upcoming Gives Back Events:

Operation Sack Lunch After Work Social, Tuesday March 16^th from 6:30 to 9:30pm at Cathy’s House on Wells Street in River North.

Free Hugs Event, Sunday, March 21 from 1pm to 3pm at the Old Water Tower on Michigan Avenue in Chicago.

GIVER PROFILE:

NAME:  Cathy Landerholm

CITY:  Chicago

I volunteered at these PF Events: Free Hugs, Feed the Homeless, Sack Lunch Social

I volunteer because: I get an enormous positive feeling to be able to give back in ways that make a difference to someone’s life.  Where financial donations are not always possible, I can do much by volunteering my time and efforts.

My favorite volunteer experience: Getting to know the guests at the Rogers Park Kitchen. They have become like family to me.

When not volunteering, I like to: Cook, go to outdoor festivals, backpacking trips, skydiving, camping, fishing, hiking, beach volleyball, Opera!

You might be surprised to know: I used to teach ballroom dancing at Fred Astaire Dance Studios and in 2005 I ran the Chicago Marathon for the first time and did it in 6 hrs and 19 minutes. Yes!

What our Givers are saying:

Food Service:

I loved that everyone enjoyed the food, the smoothies and the biggest blast was the assembly line to prepare the 30 lunches. Lots of laughs for all

Such a great idea to make food for the homeless while getting to know each other too. Thanks Cathy for putting this together.

Good News Community Kitchen now looks to Positive Focus Members to answer the call when needed. I am so proud to be a part of a group with so many dedicated members who know the need in our community, and would give up their time when needed. We all get so much out of this.

Free Hugs:

A little cold weather, but was comforted by warm hugs!

It was cold, but as always still a great event.

The best, as always!

Its a wonderful opportunity to spend a couple hours on a Saturday or Sunday, greeting people from all over the world, sharing a smile, a laugh and most certainly a hug. This really does have a profound affect on so many people, including yourself! That’s what keeps me going month after month.

Haiti Fundraiser:

The sale of some very beautiful artwork brought in some much-needed funds for Doctors Without Borders and we had a great time socializing, eating, and being entertained.

Awesome event for a great cause! Kudos to Rossi and everyone that helped arrange this event.

Thanks Rossi for hosting this event for such a worthy cause.

I am so very grateful to all of you who helped make this event a big success! Love

Our World:

I got lots of the big stuff picked up but much of the smaller litter was frozen to the ground. We’ll go back when it thaws a bit.

Inside activities for me this month – getting rid of some clothes and will donate soon.

Gives Back Events Offered:

Complete Details: of our Gives Back Offerings are on our events page, so check there and RSVP where your are drawn to assist. I promise you that it will be a worthwhile event and have you coming back for more!!

Free Hugs: Twice a month (1^st Saturday’s, 3^rd Sunday’s, and occasionally additional dates) we spread kindness by the simple gesture of a free hugs at Old Water Tower Park, Michigan Avenue and Pearson St.

Good News Community Kitchen: We meet at their Rogers Park location to serve food to the homeless.

Operation Sack Lunch & Social: Join us monthly for our kid-friendly event with a entree for the potluck food to include in the sack lunches we’ll be preparing to deliver to the Lincoln Park Community Shelter (LPCS). It’s a great time to get to know the PF community better as we eat, drink, laugh and prepare 30 sack lunches to deliver to the LPCS to distribute to their guests.

Our World: First Sunday’s of the month offering you an opportunity to help beautify your space in the world. It can be 5 minutes or five hours. Just imagine if everyone chipped in to clean up in their community from their personal home, neighborhood, city, etc.

RSVP: Although we appreciate you honoring your event RSVPs, when we are working with another organization that is counting on us to provide volunteers or other services it is imperative that you keep these commitments. Certainly emergencies come up, but if you need to cancel, please alert the event organizer ASAP so your position can be filled.

What fun we had in January with free hugs and feeding the homeless. I’m so grateful to have Cathy on board helping lead many fantastic gives back events. We could always use more help in creating new gives back events and leading them, so if you have ideas, please send them to Cathy at cathy@positive-focus.com. 

Global Free Hugs IV – we are in count down stages of global free hugs. Invitations to previous huggers and finding new hug locations is in the works. If you have suggestions or want to help us spread the word, email us at globalfreehugs@positive-focus.com. 

 Live, Love, Laugh, Hug 

Carol  

Name: Hello!  My name is Maura and I’m a Chicago native…However, I have lived in 3 other states but continue to find my way back to the south side.   

1. I volunteered at these PF events: Free Hugs 

 2. I volunteer because: It’s the Free Hugs event(s) that have led me to PF.  After watching several videos and hearing of a coworker’s experience I knew I had to find out how I could be a part of such a wonderful thing!  I wanted in!  After a few Google searches, I discovered PF J  My favorite volunteer experience… 

3. My favorite volunteer experience: Hmmm…Well, it would have to be the first time we (my two boys and I) attended a Free Hugs Sunday. My older son (7) was vehemently opposed of the whole thing, “You can’t make me do this! I’m not going to talk to anyone! This is boring!”.  I told him that he did not have to do anything that made him feel uncomfortable and could sit quietly and draw or read a book. My intention was to stay for just an hour.  Not even 10 minutes after we arrived, my four year old whom is QUITE shy wanted to pretend that he needed a hug.  “Ask me, Mom. Ask me!” and he would walk by, I would ask him if he needed a hug and he would walk over to me with his arms open…and of course I gave him a great big squeeze.  Not soon after, Liam (4) was standing next to me and would “help” me give hugs to passers-by.  Meanwhile, Aidan (7) who was brooding on the sidelines is witnessing all of this.  I notice him begin to tear pages out of his sketch pad…He has created his own “FREE HUGS” sign for his brother to hold.  I could hear Aidan whispering, “Hear, Liam…Hold this…higher!” Because Liam always does what his big brother tells him, Liam began to display his own sign…and received quite a warm response!  It was not long after that Aidan began to hide behind me and sort of offer himself up to be hugger by those whom I hugged.  However, this lasted a short time…Aidan and Liam announced they wanted to stand across the way from me. They both were holding signs over their heads and bellowing, “FREE HUGS!!!!! WHO NEEDS A HUG!!?!?” When it came time for us to go, Aidan would plead, “Just 5 more minutes! Just 5 more minutes!” What a wonderful day!  It had such a profound affect on me and my children…It was also amazing to watch those individuals who didn’t feel comfortable hugging a grown-up but were willing to accept one from a child.  I don’t think we stopped smiling the rest of that day J 

 4. When not volunteering, I like to: When not volunteering, I LOVE to bake bread, knit, read and will be running the Chicago Marathon this year. 

5. You might be surprised to know: One might be surprised to learn that actually…I’m kind of shy.  

January events: What our Givers are said:   Free Hugs:

      Always in all ways, this is one of my favorite events.

 Feed the Hungry, Feed the Soul:

     I truly enjoyed helping to serve others in need. it was a very rewarding and fulfilling experience.

      This is a great way of giving back to the community.

      It was a wonderful evening of helping others. Very warm vibe.

      We had more than enough people, but there was something to do for everyone! What a wonderful turnout.

      PF Gives back event Feed the Hungry, Feed the Soul, is a wonderful event. You get a chance to roll up your sleeves, do a little hard work and share a smile. It feels good to try and help make a difference in people’s lives.

     This is such a warm place to be, the positive and hopeful energy and family like relationship with the guests is unbelievable. I wish I had more time to be with these people.

About PF Gives Back: PF Gives Back positively allows people to live life to the fullest through serving others such as Free Hugs, Random Acts of Kindness, and volunteering for other social service agencies, and much more.