Everyone has needs. We all have the same survival needs and then we each have our personal needs; the activities that allow us to disconnect, recharge and continue to live life happily.
We’ve all had days when we make this face at our partner (at least in our minds). Parenting is no walk in the park. It has its moments of awe and wonder, but it’s not all easy. One of the challenges that most surprised me in adapting to parenting was the communication breakdown that happened with my husband. We have always prided ourselves on being great communicators. Parenting changed things because there were new demands, from our children. We still communicate pretty well, but we have moments of frustration.
Often times the frustration stems from us not having the “me” time we each need. We’ve only recently come up with a great solution. I’ll share, in the hopes that it will help you continue to be happy and more loving with your partner.
Every Sunday, Jeff and I sit down (you only need 5/10 minutes) and share what we each NEED to get done that week. You can’t judge what the person needs to do but you need to help them find time to get it done. It’s best to be even; if I have three needs, Jeff gets three. Or you can each have a “me” night. Then you can do whatever your heart desires with that “free time”.
When each person gets done what keeps them happy, the couple is happy and, therefore, the household is too (see smiley family pic). We can’t control the needs of our child(ren) but we can find time each week to reconnect with our individual selves and nurture our bodies and spirits. Family is the most important aspect of my life but I still need “Ange” time to recharge, disconnect, write and sweat :). Doing things I enjoy, that satisfy my essential needs, allows me to realize how blessed I am.
Until next week, enjoy your “me” time!
Angela M. Barbieri
I am a happy mother of two. I’ve written for as long as I can remember. Since becoming a mother, I’ve started sharing my writing to connect with others and share what I learn. I hope to support parents through my writing because parenting challenges us (understatement) but also allows us to relive innocent, new experiences through the eyes of our children (amazing!).
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