It’s our problem free philosophy, Hakuna Matata
-from the Lion King
This has been the theme song in our house all week. Several things about it make me laugh:
1) Micha has never seen The Lion King. Her cousin was here for a week, singing it, so sponge-girl Micha soaked it up and has continued to sing it daily.
2) Instead of singing the line: “what a wonderful phrase”, Micha sings “what a wonderful friends”. This makes me laugh because I am notorious in my family for difficulty deciphering lyrics. I hope Micha gets better at it with time!
3) My beloved daughter knows just when to sing this. She will have misbehaved or frustrated me and then all of a sudden, she sings the song as a reminder that whatever is going on isn’t that big of a deal. “It’s okay, Mom. Hakuna Matata.”
4) Her bop/jump/move from side to side like an ape when repeating “Hakuna Matata” would make even the grumpiest of people smile.
Hakuna Matata has been perfect for this week’s challenge. Michaela decided it was time to become obsessed with finger nail polish. For the last five days, I’ve put play doh nail polish on her fingers. (It’s an art to get those little bits to stick, let me tell you). The last two days I’ve also been ‘painting’ her toenails.
I was resistant to having Michaela paint her nails. I didn’t want my little girl having anything extra on her body. She’s beautiful au natural. However, day 4 came around and I told Jeff that if she kept requesting play doh nails, I was going to Hakuna Matata the situation, and buy her some non-toxic polish. On day 5, we went and selected her first Muddy Paints color.
Now she’s got 20 painted nails: all ten fingers and all ten toes. I reminded myself that I can’t always enforce my wants or desires on Michaela. She is her own person. I don’t want to be resistant to things she wants to do. I want to try to be accepting and understanding. I want to love her as she is. Micha helped me do that this week–“Hakuna Matata, Hakuna Matata, Hakuna Matata.” It really is a wonderful phrase.
This week, as everyone gets ready for the stress, chaos, travel and indulgence of Thanksgiving, remember Hakuna Matata. In the grand scheme of things does it really matter if the turkey gets extra crispy? Does the whipped cream have to be homemade? Does the table have to be the most beautiful one you’ve ever seen?
Focus on what matters this week. Pause. Think of the true reason we gather and celebrate on Thursday. Don’t get caught up in what’s irrelevant or unimportant. Rather, “Hakuna Matata” those things away. Who doesn’t love a “problem-free philosophy”?
Happy Thanksgiving and Hanukkah. Remember that with every challenge, you’re in control of how you handle it. I’m going to keep striving for the Hakuna Matata approach.