“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” ~ Jim Rohn
I’ve heard that you are the culmination of the five people you spend the most time with. And I’ve also heard that you should surround yourself with people that are more successful than you. So I wondered if those two statements could live together. As a person who likes to inspire people to be their best, the second statement has always made me feel a little uncomfortable as if I was excluding people that might be going through a rough patch. It felt as if I thought I was better than others by making that choice, until I put the two statements together.
The five people you spend the most time with huh? On a small scale of that example, you see it in seconds. You are eating lunch with coworkers who all are focusing on what they don’t like in their job, in their life and in the world. It’s pretty easy to get sucked into pointing out things you don’t like too. As is the same if you are around people who are celebrating life or looking for positive solutions rather than complaining about the problems they are facing.
It quickly brought me back to the fact I have a choice on who I want to be in any given moment whether I’m surrounded by people who focus on what is working in their life to those who focus on what is not. I get to choose if I want to celebrate or commiserate. I get to choose what I take away from any conversation whether it’s with people more successful than me or not.
So rather than focusing on those five people, I will focus on me. I will focus on being responsible for the energy I bring to the conversation. I will focus on learning something from everyone I meet whether I’m blessing them on their journey wanting it for me too or glad that isn’t my story. I will focus on loving what is at that moment whoever I’m with.
Mostly I will focus on being my best self and be a reflection of love, happiness, compassion, gentleness, and forgiveness. My recommendation to you, surround yourself with people who nurture your soul and when you walk away from them you want more.
Big hugs and mucho love,
PF Founder & Vision Keeper