I enjoy saying it and hearing it often. In fact, my dad and I talk every day. When we do, he says, “Love, have I told you that I love you today?” I always say “no” so he’ll tell me even if we’ve already talked that day. It makes me smile every time. I also realize more and more how grateful I am that I can still hear it and say that to my dad. Since it makes me feel so good, I’ve started saying it to Michaela. Her face lights up with a big grin as she says, “no”; then I tell her that I love her with all my heart. We give big hugs and lots of kisses afterwards. It’s a special piece of our days.
Saying “I love you” is hard for some so you don’t have to say “I love you”. Growing up my dad alway said, “Actions speak louder than words.” He’s right. You can tell people you love them but showing them is more powerful. The actions don’t have to be big, since realistically there isn’t time in a daily schedule to show your love in grandiose ways. It’s the little things you do, the things you do consistently, that show someone how much they mean to you.
This week, I challenge you to say “I love you” more often than you normally do, either with words or actions. A lot of people in my world need some extra TLC, so I want to give it to them! I came up with these ideas and would LOVE to hear yours!
1) You can send an email or text saying “thinking about you” or “I’m smiling thinking about when we…” “Just wanted to tell you that YOU’RE GREAT!!!”
2) You could invite someone over for dinner or offer to take them out.
3) You could send flowers or chocolates for no reason.
4) You could write a handwritten card. Include “DFTBA” (Don’t forget to be Awesome!) in your message. Tell them you wanted to remind them they’re awesome and list reasons why you believe they are.
5) You could go for a run or a walk together to have some quality face time.
6) You could plan a date night with your husband, wife, partner or friend and go some place new.
7) You can buy a small (or large) gift for someone for no reason other than you loving them.
8) Give them a hug–a really strong, long, lasting hug so it soaks into that person that you care about them.
Since you’re showing love more than you usually do, I also encourage you to think outside the box of the people you love. There are people in all of our communities who don’t have a home or know where they’re next meal is coming from. At intersections in my city, I often watch people keep their windows up and stare straight ahead, ignoring a person asking for help. It’s easy to love those we feel comfortable with, but I also want to challenge you to be more giving of yourself. I challenge you to say “I love you” with actions to everyone this week. Don’t reject those who are rejected sooooo often. It’s easy to be judgmental. It’s easy to worry about “what they’ll spend the money on” but don’t think that way this week. Realize how blessed you are as a human being, and realize that this person, who is so often overlooked, is a human being too.
9) Give change or a dollar to anyone you pass on the street that’s asking for it.
10) Smile and say hello to people. We should show love to everyone we can. A smile goes a LOOOOONG way.
The more we say “I love you” with words and actions, the better we’ll feel. Filling your heart with love and giving that love to any and everyone you can is your greatest gift. We are the only beings that know how to love so let’s love and love and love and love!
Have a LOVEly week!