As I was driving this afternoon, listening to my Live Love Laugh Hug playlist, something my sister told me years ago popped into my held. We discussed a business colleague of mine that was driving me crazy. I’m a jump in and learn along the way person. She’s a study, read, think type person and then slowly move forward. Neither way is better than the other, and on some level, I knew that to be true. 🙂
After listening to me discuss (okay – vent) about how SHE was taking forever to do something and SHE just didn’t seem interested in moving forward with the project at hand, my sister, who is an educational trainer, said “You know if you are frustrated with her, she is most likely frustrated with you too.” YIKES – it opened my eyes to the fact that I (lil ole me) could be frustrating to someone.
In that moment I was able to see that my ‘jump now think later’ methods and her ‘study, contemplate’ methods both have their time and place. My sister thought we would make a great partnership in business to balance each other. In the end, we were both too far on the spectrum of jumping and sitting, but our partnership ended amicably.
That scenario visits me from time-to-time when I’m ‘thinking’ someone isn’t moving fast enough for me – knowing the other person is thinking, slow down and lets think this through. 🙂 It’s been a great reminder to me that true change comes from within. I am responsible for changing my frustration, not the person I’m frustrated with. Of course it’s nice if they do…but it isn’t needed for my happiness. 🙂
Today it popped into my head when I was listening (perhaps singing) to Michael Jackson’s Man in the Mirror – “If you want to make the world a better place, take a look at yourself and make the change.”