A dear friend sent me this video a while back. Somehow it got lost in my inbox and I only saw it recently. The video is worth 3 minutes and 19 seconds. It’s even good for people who aren’t mothers because the message can be applied to anyone.
The first half of the video consists of several mothers sharing their views of themselves as mothers. As more and more of them talked about their lack of patience, or their desire to have more patience, my heart relaxed and my breaths slowed down–comforted that I wasn’t alone. These mothers made themselves out as very hard on their kids or as getting angry often. I empathized with them because I know how hard each day is. You never know what demands your kids will have or have slept the night before. It’s easy to be hard on yourself, wishing you were more laid back, more understanding, or easier on your kids.
The second half of the video are their children sharing their views of their mothers. What a difference a set of eyes makes! Each child who spoke said beautiful things about their mother. Not one shared a negative thought. They only saw the love she has, all she does for them, how good she is at playing with them. Some called their moms “my hero”. You see the mothers listening to their children, which makes it better. I had tears streaming down my cheeks. This time my heart smiled and my breaths got deeper, eager to take in more of this wonderful day.
Whether you’re parenting or not, we all tend to be much harder on ourselves than others are on us. It’s so easy for us to beat ourselves up for the negatives, without crediting all the positives. Sometimes, we wish we had more patience, yet we focus on those negative times and use them to define our parenting. Instead, let’s focus on the silly times we have, the times where we help our daughter put on ‘boobs’ so she can feed her baby (blog picture), or the times where you make up songs in silly voices to make your kids laugh.
This week, I ask you to keep in mind the words of these children. Let them fill your heart. Let them remind you that others see you very differently than you see yourself. Others see your beauty, your kindness, your compassion and your generosity. This week, pay attention to your goodness and your positive impact on others. Finally, take a moment to tell your mother, father, best friend, husband or children how YOU see THEM. We can all spread the love.
Hugs and smiles,