There are periods in life when weeks and months fly by. In other times, life’s demands are so plentiful that you’re aware of each hour passing by as you attempt to do it all.
Life is the latter for me right now. My father-in-law is very ill so he moved in a month ago. Our ‘normal’ daily routine has become a new ‘norm’ which involves nurses, health aides and caregivers in and out of our house each day. We’ve had family staying with us non-stop since Sept. 5th so we’re nearing a month of sharing our living space. Luca is teething; Micha is weaning out of diapers during naps/nights and Jeff is traveling. Life is intense right now.
Fortunately, I’ve been going to yoga. Last week the teacher shared some wise words: “Surrender to the intensity”. She was referring to the intensity of a yoga pose, but her sentence hit home.
“Yes, surrender to the intensity of your life”, I thought. I found such comfort in her words. They made me realize that 1)My life is intense right now and that’s okay. 2) If I surrender to the challenges each day presents, then recognize each night that we are doing something great for my father-in-law and our family, I am happy and proud.
Surrendering means letting go of my old “normal” daily routine and accepting the “new norm”. Surrendering means realizing that even though this wasn’t part of my ‘plan’ it’s what I am supposed to do. Surrendering means seeing challenges as opportunities to learn and grow. Surrendering means doing what you can with grace, love and compassion. Surrendering means being open to what life presents and realizing the gift of intense times.
I know that Jeff and I are capable of providing a safe, comforting space for my father-in-law in the time he has left. I know that Michaela and Luca are learning to be loving and caring in ways that I couldn’t teach them without my father-in-law here. I know that I am greatly blessed to have my parents near by, both so willing to do whatever they can to help in anyway they can.
Life can be smooth-sailing and then life can be intense. You may be smooth-sailing now but remember that when things get rough, surrender. When you surrender, you go with the flow and let life take you to where you’re supposed to go. The more you resist, the more beat up you get. Surrender to life’s intensities while remembering they will shape you positively even if you don’t see how.
I truly believe that life only gives us what we can handle. So, while this time of my life was and can become overwhelming, I trust it’s what I’m supposed to be living. I also trust that I’m supposed to surrender because there I find peace and the strength to keep giving.
I hope you can surrender to whatever challenges present themselves this week. You are strong enough to handle them and wise enough to figure out how to adapt. I believe in you.
“Always be kinder than you feel.”