Any parent can attest to the fact that right when you feel like you’re getting into a routine with your child, they decide to change it up! My sweet, little Luca has been such a good sleeper. He naps between 2-4 hours both in the morning and afternoon and 12-13 hours at night. Then all of a sudden last week hits, and out goes our schedule! (Always tough when teeth are coming in!)
The cues he used to give me right before going down–gone. The ease in which he would be awake to feel me lay him down but then lay still and fall right to sleep–gone. The certainty that he would fall right asleep AND stay asleep for at least an hour–gone.
I don’t know if and Micha discussed having an “off week” together, but Micha joined the ‘change-routine-party’. She’s normally a good afternoon napper too but not this week. She was fighting her naps, singing and talking to herself for 45 minutes before falling asleep and then only sleeping 1.5-2 hours and waking up unhappy.
All this meant Mama didn’t get her daily “Mama time”. By Thursday, I was tired, frustrated and a bit overwhelmed. I talked to Jeff and he said he’d be home early. That gave me comfort to push through a few more hours before sharing the load of our lovies.
While waiting, I kept reminding myself, “This too shall pass.” I thought of phases I went through with Micha. She’d change things up too frequently for me being a first time mom. I didn’t understand or want her to change a routine I’d gotten used to and just when I’d gotten it figured out, she did something new!
I’ve learned that everything happens in phases. The beauty is that once the new routine works itself out, you have a more alert, more interactive, more action-packed baby! Even though you might miss the quiet, snuggly baby against your skin, it’s exciting to see how your child continues to grow and develop.
After a week of changes, I’m going to start this new week focusing on the positives. Micha may just start sleeping less. Luca is starting to regulate his new (later) bedtime and nap schedule. I’ll keep doing my part and giving them each the time and space to sleep. If I don’t get my Mama-time, I’ll either make time for myself at night or accept that I’ll get Mama-time back eventually.
I never feel ready for a new phase, but I always enjoy the more developed, growing baby/child. Once you get over a hump, there tends to be a smooth ride for a while… If your baby, toddler or child is having a ‘change-routine-party’ just remember it’s a phase. “This too shall pass”. Knowing that no phase is permanent can be the comfort you need to push through.
Hope your week’s smooth sailing 🙂
*Notice first Luca’s showing us his teeth and then he’s like “Ha, ha. I’m having a change-routine-party! This is fun.” 🙂
Angela M. Barbieri
I am a happy mother of two. I’ve written for as long as I can remember. Since becoming a mother, I’ve started sharing my writing to connect with others and share what I learn. I hope to support parents through my writing because parenting challenges us (understatement) but also allows us to relive innocent, new experiences through the eyes of our children (amazing!).
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