It’s amazing how quickly the weeks go. With all the action we had this past week in Chicago, Michaela and Luca got good at falling asleep in unusual places. For example, they never sleep next to each other like they are here. However, we’d been away from home for nine days and they found comfort napping next to each other on our last day away. They also caught more Zzzzs in our stroller within 9 days than they have in their whole lives! I’m not boasting that I had them on the go. In fact, it was hard on all of us. There were people I wanted to see and spend quality time with, yet Micha and Luca have nap and bedtime schedules that they thrive on following. We all managed and now we’re very happy to be home!
“Go, go, go” seems to be my norm. Jeff and I are blessed to have two sets of parents and several high school and college friends near by. While we are grateful to have so many loved ones close by, we tend to overbook our calendar, leading us to attend some events that we’re drained for even before we arrive. We always pep up and have a great time, but I sometimes wonder what would happen if we didn’t push so much.
-Would my house be as organized and de-cluttered as I’d like?
-Would I write the articles and potential book I dream of?
-Would I cook all the foods and snacks that I grocery shop for but don’t always make?
-Would I read book after book, learning new things and falling in love with new characters?
-Would I organize the kids’ playroom and create some activities for us to do during the week?
-Would I have a regular workout schedule and do yoga regularly?
The answer is “yes, most likely”. Yet, I’m still a “go, go, go” gal. It wears me down sometimes, but overall, the time I spend with family and friends fills me up. After all, life is about the moments we spend connecting to others. Time with family and friends enriches our lives. It makes us better people, helps us work through our unsolved questions about life, travel to new lands, share what we’ve learned and experienced, savor old and new flavors. So much happens in the company of others. For me, having time with people I love matters more than a perfectly organized house or cooking all the foods I want to try.
At times, like this week, when the “go, go, go” is too much, too fast (or too close together), I leave days unplanned and give myself a break. I hang around the house with the kids and take it easy. I nap when the kids do or do ‘something for me’ no matter how short or brief it is (my daily lumosity exercises). When Jeff comes home, I make sure we snuggle on the couch for 5-10 minutes and we’re still enough that I can reground myself. Finally, I go to bed on time (10pm) and get the rest I need to recharge.
When you feel overwhelmed with all the commitments you have, plan a break. We all need to slow down at times to cool our engines, so we can rev back up again. Life demands a lot, but we can view all the requests as things to be grateful for. It’s much nicer when you look at life that way–if you push hard for a while, like the kids and I did in Chicago, then you ease up afterwards. It’ll all balance out…
Have a great week!