We are in Cabo with Jeff’s siblings and families: my two sister-in-laws, two brother-in-laws, niece and nephew. We spent a lot of time together this past fall when my father-in-law moved in with us to live out the last few months of his life.
I’m blessed to love the family I married into. It’s good because we saw each other almost every weekend for three months, until mid-November when my father-in-law died. Death is hard because of the loss and permanent absence moving forward. However, my father-in-law was ready to go. He was also glad to spend his last months surrounded by the only people that mattered to him: his three children and their families. During that time, we pulled together, became closer and loved Craig more. I will always cherish those months with him. I learned a lot, loved a lot and will fondly hold onto the memories of my beloved FIL. He loved acronyms! (I was his DIL: daughter-in-law 🙂 Oh, Craig…I miss you.)
Cabo was his favorite place. Therefore, we came here, with his cremains to leave him where he wanted to be left. In a few days, we’ll go out on a boat and leave him in the Sea of Cortez. There will be tears but there will be comfort and peace. For, together as a family, we are giving Craig our last gift–a send off the way he wanted.
We’ve already shared stories and laughs about Grandpa. But we’ve also shared laughs un-related to him. He would’ve wanted it that way. Through his desire to be left in Cabo, he’s given us our last gift: time together in a beautiful place.
The rest of our days here we vacate. We vacate from the demands of work, life, daily chores and responsibilities. We vacate from being “on” by leaving our phones off and barely getting online. We read books and magazines, lay by the pool with no agenda. We are together and we relax.
Everyone needs to vacate and celebrate. This week, whether you vacate, celebrate or do both, be grateful for what you have and who you share it with. I certainly am–although it’s easier to do with sunshine 🙂